Raising a child in split-households can be tricky to navigate. One of the most important things to cultivate as a parent is consistency in child care. With the many transitions that accompany divorce or separation, make sure that your child feels secure & comfortable with the facility you choose for their care. Selecting the right center for your child will help him or her grow and develop the critical skills needed to excel throughout the rest of their lives while supporting them through this bumpy adjustment.
Schedule Schedule Schedule-
In today’s digital age there are apps for just this! Make sure that your child has a clear schedule of events that are happening in their world. Child care is no exception. Talk to them about the changes that are happening at home & reassure them that they will still be attending the same preschool, with their friends. It’s always an added bonus to let them see the calendar. Maybe purchase one for the child’s bedroom where they can see what days they are with mom & when they’ll transition to dad’s. Put the preschool schedule on the calendar as well as birthdays, activities, holidays & scheduled outings.
Here are a few great apps that assist parents with staying on the same page & creating a stable communication plan.
Most of all, make sure communication between mom and dad is civil & kind in front of your child. When divorce happens with a young child, they haven’t developed the skills to express how they feel. Remind them that you both love them very much-giving lots of cuddles, hugs & love.
Changes in behavior-
Due to their age, children are not able to comprehend all of the changes happening around them. They know that their world is changing but they will not be able to communicate how they feel, what they need, etc. and you may see some changes in their overall demeanor. Some children resort to aggression. If they have been potty trained, they may regress and begin wetting the bed again. You may see extra tears, separation anxiety or trouble sleeping. Be patient. Be kind. Talk to them about all of the changes. Keep it simple and reassure them again and again that you love them unconditionally.
Remember, that you are a model for handling change –
Children can sense your emotions. How you deal with the changes & transitions will affect them. If you are frequently angry, stressed, & spiteful, they will pick up on that attitude; giving them the message that you are not okay, they are not okay, & they could begin to mimic those same expressions. Divorce and separation is undeniably stressful. You are bound to have hard days. Try as hard as you can to decompress before you pick them up from daycare. Seeking help from an outside source may be the answer for you. It could potentially help your little one deal with their emotions as well. Be as positive as possible and let them express how they feel. Here are a few age-appropriate books to check out:
- Two Homes by Claire Masurel
- Why Do Families Change by Dr. Jillian Roberts
- Dinosaurs Divorce by Marc Brown
- Family Changes by Maker Ph.D., Azmaira H.
- The Color Monster by Anna Llenas
Reading books that they can relate to is a good way to connect with them and teaches them words and phrases that pertain to their situation. Talk about the books & read them often.
Talk to your child’s preschool teacher about the changes that are occuring at home. Early childhood education is a balanced, constant in your child’s life. Make it a priority to keep their attendance regular and correspond with their teacher often about how the child is doing, any new behavior patterns, or voiced concerns. Work closely with the preschool, as a team, with your child’s well being at the center of that partnership.
Teachers can help support your child through this upsetting time. They can make themselves available to students and parents to talk with. Teachers also keep things consistent with routines, rules & expectations at school. At preschool your child can receive encouragement and guidance towards good friends & community groups. Creating a safe, friendly environment that gives children reassurance is essential in the classroom.
Our team at Kaleidoscope Kids creates your child’s curriculum based on the observations of the children in the classroom. This means that our teachers learn about your child’s needs, strengths, and interests and then create their curriculum from those keen observations.
From infant to preschool; we strive to provide a safe and nurturing environment that your children can discover and learn in. Most importantly, we are focused on keeping your child of any age; happy, loved, engaged and secure.
Whether you are just looking around or are interested in enrolling your child immediately, we are excited to learn more about you and your family! We look forward to helping you make the best choice for your big decision.
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